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Friday Quotes

Things I am thinking about expressed well by others.

The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.

~ Socrates

People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.

~ J. Michael Straczynski

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.

~ Michelangelo

You always have two choices: your commitment versus your fear.

~ Sammy Davis Jr

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What is Your Angel List?

Listening to Tim Ferris Show this morning; an interview with Naval Ravikant, founder of AngelList (World’s largest online fundraising platform for startups). They talked about great investment opportunities and it prompted me to think about where I was investing. Where am I storing up my treasures, emotional, relational, time, intellect? Where am I investing myself?

I don’t like what I discovered. Ignorance is bliss. I am investing a lot of Bob in places/activities/ideas that don’t align with who I say I am and who I hope to be. There are a number of areas where I have skewed my spending but one in particular jumped to my attention. I spend time thinking about, worrying about, talking about politics. I have no real influence, no real expectation of change, and get no ‘enjoyment’ from partisanship. Why would I circle this toilet? Why would I read  commentary, listen to speeches, consider supporting a candidate, making a donation? After my investment analysis I am committing to voting on October 20 (I know who I will vote for) but I am not giving any more of my assets to this endeavor.

I am taking the time, energy, resources from this divestment and reinvesting in people and personal experiences with my beloved. We can realign values and spending and this is where I am starting.

Make Today Remarkable, by analyzing your investments,

B

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Commit

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.

~ Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

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The  last line gets all the press. Dream big – do it now. But without the first line the last isn’t possible. He (Goethe) didn’t couch the statement in weasel words. It doesn’t say ‘Perhaps if one is committed’ or ‘ there could be’ or ‘ maybe providence would move’.

I have seen this in my life and those around me. I am sure you have witnessed it in yours. Full commitment begins the path to miracles. It isn’t mysticism. It isn’t magic. It is a shift in vision. Once committed our eyes are opened differently, our scope is wider, our peripheral gets drawn in and our awareness becomes keener. Commitment without hesitancy – pick one thing today that you are ready to fully commit to. On a scale of 1 to 10, how committed are you? If it isn’t 10, then what will it take to get you to 10? Accountability helps ensure that we  live up to what we commit to. Leave a note here or a tweet @remarkablelives or email bob@remarkablepeople.ca and I will do a daily check in over the next week as an external accountability.

Make Today Remarkable, by fully committing,

B

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The Key to Making a Difference

The key to making a difference is not being indifferent. The infectious nature of apathy and disinterest is poisoning our world. The symptoms look like nonchalance, lethargy, and even even hostility. The treatment is simple; begin with a dose of commitment to one small thing that brings value to someone other than yourself. One small action that you can tale today and for 3 additional days. 4 days in total and then you are ready to increase the dosage. The one small thing becomes two small things for 4 days and then three small things for another 4 days. In less than 2 weeks you are ready to put the boots to any lingering indifference by taking on one significant action (you decide what small is, you decide what significant is).

Some clients have made the transition from one small thing (greeting everyone with a genuine smile) to two small things ( smile and undertake an act of courtesy like giving up your seat and opening doors) to three small things and one significant action ( actively asking a curious question and actively listening to the response). The choices are yours to make but making a difference begins by ridding  our head and heart of indifference.  The process of moving small step, small step, small step, bigger step begins to create a habit of difference making and after 3 weeks can become your new norm.

Make Today Remarkable, by slaying indifference,

B

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R&R&R

Rest – a summer of racing from one thing to the next and training and running five trail races left me physically tired. Saturday turned into a rest day. No training, no work, no racing. Rest, a long night’s sleep and a long nap with very little in between seems to have refreshed my body.

Relaxation – I have been pressing my mind and creativity for a few months and the need to relax was  manifested in restlessness and discontent. No reading, no writing, no ranting. Reflection, pausing and stretching has opened my mind.

Relationships – I don’t do relationships well. I either go all in and feel burnt out or I don’t invest enough time and energy and leave others unsatisfied. I am left feeling empty.Dancing with a grandson and laughing with a granddaughter lifted my heart.

I am sure this wasn’t a lesson learned and I will find myself tired, edgy and empty again but for now the R&R&R has raised me up again and given me motivation, inspiration and hope.

Make Today Remarkable,

B

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Are you a Vacuum? I am.

Most days it feels like I am sucking up all the information that I encounter, pulling it in through my eyes, ears and other senses. Today it feels like the filter is plugged with a bunch of irrelevant, disconnected data waiting to be discharged into a waste bin. Usually a good head shake, a great challenge or a remarkable kick in the pants loosens the garbage and cleans the filter so the process can continue. The filter is dirty and the bag is full which in the past meant that I had let something relevant slip through and my knower doesn’t want to toss it. Going through the trash is dirty, difficult and time consuming but here I sit today reaching into the memory bag looking for the piece of jewelry that caught picked up but didn’t get stashed properly.

Is it a passage in a book? A snippet of a conversation? A nervous reaction in a conversation? An emotional outburst that I misread? A deleted, unread email? Something that I am denying? Something that I am manufacturing? Something …

I have been through this before and know that I need to be diligent but not anxious. The gem will reappear when I least expect it. Maybe I need to do something I wouldn’t expect.

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dʒeɪnəs

Janus is the god of beginnings and transitions. He is usually depicted as having two faces, since he looks to the future and to the past.

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It is important to have an eye on the experiences, successes, failures, celebrations and tragedies from the past, both global  and personal. We can learn a lot from what has already happened. The future deserves equal attention. We can look to new opportunities, consequences, surprises, and lay a path towards our tomorrows.

Janus (dʒeɪnəs in Latin) doesn’t seem  to be aware of the present. Looking back and forward he doesn’t see the majesty, mystery and messages surrounding him. I have been there living from memories to dreams without stopping to smell the flowers, taste the honey, hear the music or kiss a lived one. When my life feels frantic, I retreat from now.

The memories and dreams are are a shifting, imperfect, blurry frame for my immediate. If I struggle to hold the frame too tight, the picture gets out of focus or disappears. When I live today, adding experiences to my cupboard, the frame expands and contracts and the past and future shifts and transforms. If I love the frame and live the picture I get to see a new world very day.

Make Today Remarkable, by holding everything a little more loosely,

B

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Nonsene

I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living, it’s a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope. Which is what I do, and that enables you to laugh at life’s realities. ~  Dr. Suess

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The dog days of  summer can be draining. Where I live we are in an official heat wave but I am not complaining because in 6 months it could be 60 degrees colder. But the heat has a way  of zapping our energy and we need to look through the wrong end of a telescope to see the world in a nonsensical way.

Put on a colorful shirt, shorts that don’t match and an outrageous hat. Go to the playground a hang upside down from the monkey  bars (make monkey sounds if you dare). Slide down the slide, swing on the swing, teeter on the teeter. Get a bit dizzy. Drink plenty of water. Don’t exercise, just play.

Have way too much silly fun.

Make Today Remarkable, by being silly,

B

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Change My Mind

When things aren’t as I expect them to be. When I am doubting a decision. When I don’t know what to do next. When I am feeling sorry for myself. I change my mind. My world is as much a product of my mental state as it the circumstances that surround me. Wallowing, worrying, whining, wincing and wasting make feel worse and don’t accomplish anything.

I change my mind and do the next possible, right thing.  Action bias conquers the 5 w’s. Doing something (anything) is better than doing nothing. If you take action you have something to fix and are creating a new momentum. when you are flat – take action. When you are low – take action. When you are high – take action. When you are sad – take action…. Take Action. Change your mind and take action.

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Dancing

“The right brain, which governs much of our self-regulation, creativity and empathy, can grow throughout life. The right brain grows though full-body experience like rough-and-tumble play, dancing or freelance artistic creation. So at any point, a parent can take up a creative activity with a child and they can grow together.” ~ Science Daily

I love the challenge in this quote –  my right brain can grow throughout life if I experience life fully, throwing my body into it and doing it with someone can magnify  the effect.

As a parent or grandparent, are you tumbling, dancing, playing with kids? Are you finding play  in your own life? When did you last spin around, skip, twirl, somersault? Do  you dance when no one is watching? When you have an audience?

Who are you sharing these exuberant activities with? Find a child in your life or be the child in someone else’s. Don’t register for another class, another program, another lesson. Register your excitement by becoming an amateur freelance artistic creator. Celebrate the freedom, acknowledge the joy, and do it again tomorrow.

Make Today Remarkable, by being exuberant,

B