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Coaching Can Make You Remarkable

Pioneered and developed by Marilyn Atkinson, PhD, Solution-Focused Coaching is an advanced coaching model that integrates the profession of coaching with a highly developed body of personal growth technologies. Developed over the past 30 years, it provides a comprehensive approach that assists individuals, managers and teams to take action in alignment with their highest individual and corporate vision. Solution Focused personal or business coach, does what a good sports coach, an acting trainer, or a writing teacher does, but with systemic clarity of focus. A Remarkable Coach, will challenge you and help to clarify what you want, and takes the time to find out what winning in life means to you. A Remarkable Coach is a partner in first clarifying your vision and the steps to get there, and then inspiring you to your next level of personal excellence. Through coaching you can discover the life you know as deepest aim; a life of development and accomplishment, both personally and professionally.

A coach will encourage, prompt, provoke and sponsor you towards the ownership of skill-sets that encourage and support your increased creativity, productiveness and effectiveness.

We all face doubts, barriers, personal scripts that slow or even halt our progress. People with high aspirations, move past these ‘gremlins’ through simply partnering with a Remarkable Coach.  Athletes, high achievers, musicians, writers, skilled actors know they get best results with a coach who can help them review aims, set directions, clarify and specify steps.  Their attention can then become relaxed around their ultimate direction towards excellence.  When they commit themselves to work with a personal coach they learn how to focus on their long-range ability sets. A serious performer or serious player in the realm of competitive sports or music would not expect to progress very far without a strong alliance with a good coach.

Contact bob@remarkablepeople.ca for information on a complementary one hour skype coaching session.

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Happy Valentine’s Day

I readily and happily admit that my life is so much better because of   my partner, my wife, my beloved.  I am indebted for her patience, amazed by her tolerance and blessed by her caring. She fills a lot of the holes in my life. I love her.

My kids and grandkids let me know that I am loved , in direct and indirect ways. A smile when I enter the room, a cuddle when we  need it, a kind word even when they aren’t feeling well are reminders of how I should behave. I love them.

Good friends have and meet high expectations. I am not always attentive or responsive to their needs and can be disappointed when they don’t meet my unspoken ones. I love them.

As a follower of God, in the way of Jesus I try to live a life he would please him. Every day when I don’t live that life I still feel I am forgiven and cared for. I love Jesus.

“Love Is A Many Splendored Thing”
(originally by The Four Aces)

Love is a many splendored thing
It’s the April rose
That only grows in the early spring
Love is nature’s way of giving
A reason to be living
The golden crown that makes a man a king

Once on a high and windy hill
In the morning mist
Two lovers kissed
And the world stood still
Then your fingers touched
My silent heart and taught it how to sing
Yes, true love’s
A many splendored thing

Once on a high and windy hill
In the morning mist
Two lovers kissed
And the world stood still
Then your fingers touched
My silent heart and taught it how to sing
Yes, true love’s
A many splendored thing

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What is in your Memory Bank?

If memories are the economy of experience then dreams must be one of the currencies that your can draw.

The University of Manchester discovered that at least part of our dreams are constructed from memory fragments that bubble to the surface in celebration or seeking resolution. Not everything in our dreams fits neatly in a memory box, the shadows of worldview, fantasy, anxiety, indigestion and discontent rear up and contribute during REM and NREM sleep.
That is why dreams have a real and surreal quality. The puzzle pieces seem to fit but they come from different boxes and are different sizes.
I have discovered that the more I probe my memory in Faded Recollections, the strong memories contribute to my dreams. In October, I would have said, ” I don’t remember anything from my childhood” but as I started writing for NaNoMo the gate opened and dozens and then hundreds of images came flooding forward both when I was awake and as I slept. The ‘memories’ fed the writing, were inspired by writing, contributed to dreams and the dreams opened little slits to another memory.

I can feel my bank filling and I can draw from both dreams and memories to create a tapestry of unimagined possibilities.

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How do You add Value?

Are you an adder or a subtracter? Most of us add and subtract value every day. At the end of the day, what is your +/- rating? Are you giving excellence to your work, relationships and self?

Having a net positive day, week, life doesn’t happen by accident. It requires intention and action that is pointed to creating value. It requires persistence in the face of convenience. It requires character.

Just being aware that all our choices and actions have consequences, good or bad,  is a great first step. You can make a difference. Your decisions change you, change your relationships, change your relationships and change your world.

I am intentionally trying to be healthier. When I run, workout, play sports, walk, resist temptations I am taking positive steps toward living healthier. As I work to get healthier, others see my efforts. My relationship with my beloved, my kids, my family, my friends is improved when I feel better. My community doesn’t need to have space, resources or energy to devote to my care and can direct it where it is needed most. When I go to the gym today, eat more fruits and vegetables, moderate my vices I can add these to the positive side of my ledger.

When a client requests my services and I don’t do my best, I subtract. When one of my grandkids needs a receptive ear and I am there – I add. When I don’t react to being delayed in traffic or angrily curse at being cutoff – I add.

Are you up to a challenge? Would you observe as many of your intentions and actions as you can for the next 7 days and record whether they are positive or negative. Will you try to add value and excellence in every situation, for just the next 168 hours? If you are up to it, I would appreciate (and I am sure other readers would too) if you would comment on this post or associated tweet with #value and your total?

Make Today Remarkable. Make adding value your problem.

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Children and Grandchildren

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We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today. ~Stacia Tauscher

How do we honor our children and grandchildren regardless of their age?

– be a great listener (listen intently and listen globally to what is said and unsaid)

– be equitable ( try to bring what is needed to each child in each situation, not just their share, not  what they deserve but what they need)

– be a confidant ( keep the secrets that are shared unless danger is involved)

– be a reliable parent ( quality time only works if their is enough quantity time for the relationship to blossom)

A child can ask questions that a wise man cannot answer. ~Author Unknown

I am often surrounded by people who think they are experts. I am often one of them, myself.  My expertise blinds me with bias and blinkers me to options. I hope to learn to be more like my grandchildren who ask with curiousity not problem solving at the heart.

Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there. – Will Rogers

My impatient, imperfectionist with an action bias shining through.

Make Today Remarkable, for a child,

Bob