Self Improvement

Moving Forward

A revised version of an October 2015 post that seems timely this week.

Lethargy, inertia, torpor, indolence, lassitude, listlessness… – there seems to be a lot of words to describe waning motivation. Maybe it is health; low iron, low blood sugar, or illness. Maybe it is diet; too much protein – too little, too many carbs, too many sweets, too much alcohol or just too much. Maybe it is the season; a memory of autumn that draws you down, a realization that another year is slipping away, a relentless schedule or big changes in your life. Maybe it is mental illness; too little serotonin uptake, brain chemistry out of whack or a long running script that erodes confidence. Maybe you have an infection and your body is fighting desperately to slow you down so it can heal.

If motivation and excitement have left, it is important to work through the possibilities to discover what is zapping your energy so that you can take action to reduce the impact or eliminate the cause. I am not a medical doctor or psychologist but recommend that you find some help in your research and diagnosis. I have some serious mental health issues that I monitor and treat every day. I have found a routine and alternative supplements that temper the edge of the dark clouds without zapping away all the brightness. I am aware of my impact on those around me and recognize that when I am not well they are less well. It is the right practice for me, mostly because I believe it works for me. Acknowledging that something is amiss, seeking information and assistance and following a regimen that you believe in can lift the weight and let the rays of sun and hope reach you.

Our days are busy and seem to be getting busier. There doesn’t seem to be any relief in the near future. We deserve to feel at our best and have a responsibility to be our best. Reaching out recognizes both and is the mature (yet difficult) thing to do.

Make Today Better on your way to remarkable,




For me this is the hardest thin g to let go of; control. Control of the timing. Control of the people. Control of the outcome. Control of the process…. And I really have very limited control.

Even in those times when I had 100’s of people reporting to me, I had limited control. They had roles and responsibilities but most often imperfect metrics were used to measure productivity, quality, initiative. Some succeeded, wildly succeeded playing a different game. Some failed, dramatically failed trying to game me and the system. Most fell into mediocrity because of the struggle between my trying to control and their inability to march to their own drum.

Daniel Pink says people are motivated by autonomy, mastery and purpose after they are receiving sufficient income to cover their needs and some of their desires (about $75k). I don’t know what order they need the three things (I suspect purpose is first) but I have witnessed remarkable changes when I have stepped aside and let coworkers, direct reports, colleagues, family, friends figure out how they wish to proceed after they understand the parameters and expectations.

In the grand scheme of the universe, I only have control of my actions and I am often skeptical about how much control I really have. In my personal life I get to make hundreds of choices and take hundreds of actions every day, most of my own design. In collegial or relational situations I now understand I have way less sway than I once thought. Knowing doesn’t make it easier to let go but I am continuing to figure out ways to make it less stressful.

Make Today Remarkable, by giving away some control,