What is Success

When you win an argument, finish a project, or earn a promotion – is this success? If we measure success by momentary and temporary accomplishments will we be fulfilled?

There are consequences to all our action choices. If I succeed in winning an argument with my beloved but it leaves her feeling sad, how can that be positive? My ego is boosted by the win but my relationship is damaged too. If I work 70 hours a week for 6 months to finish an important project but my blood pressure and weight are dangerously high, is that good?

I have proposed that we have at least 7 elements in our life; Health, Fun. Relationships, Projects, Work, Financial, Spiritual. Don’t get caught up on the titles or definitions. The key is to observe how satisfied we are in each area and then noticing what the whole looks like. Most of us would see disharmony; one element high others low. One element dragging down others. One element taking away time, kinetic energy and reources while starving others. I don’t like to think of trying to balance these like a scale but rather seeking to honor each with care and attention. Success in one area is illusory if it comes at a cost in others.


There are many resources available to help find a rhythm that is harmonious and that creates success across your life wheel. If coaching is something that you would consider, contact me at bob@remarkablepeople.ca for a free 30 minute session.


Make Today Remarkable, by noticing,




Two Hands – Three Balls

Are you juggling too many balls? Too many is a relative term. I can keep two in the air with one hand but struggle to keep 3 or more up with both hands. If I had another pair of hands or many more jugglers everything gets more complicated. It is why jugglers (and magicians) impress me. But for the rest of us, what do we do with the additional balls?

I might never master keeping three projects going simultaneously. In me the myth of multitasking seems to be disprove. I am easily distracted by another shiny thing but only if I set aside what I am focused on in the moment. To make the transition work I need to lay down one file and pick up another. I need to bookmark one conversation so I can return to it if I am drawn into something else. I dog ear books and love that Kindle remembers where In was when I stop reading.

I use lists, calendars, memory cupboards with some success and I schedule almost everything to try keep the saucers spinning in the right direction. You have all seen what happens when one stick wobbles and the whole array of plates crashes.

I don’t have a simple solution to juggling. I probably don’t have a simple solution for anything. But for me improving focus on the task at hand and then demarking it in some way helps me make a smoother slide to the next task. It isn’t really juggling but the balls all keep getting passed.


Make Today Remarkable, by not joining the circus,